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Prosperity follows you.

You are highly motivated and successful people in most things you take on as individuals and as a couple. You thrive on staying organized, having great people surround you, and being kind to others.

In return, you feel pretty lucky to be living the life found before you. Your job is going well; your children are cared for in a way you never imagined. Things are good.

Your relationship is good.

You’re not here because your relationship is terrible. You still see virtuous qualities in your partner and the relationship. Your life circumstances and general drive have allotted you the ability to make room in your mind for relational improvements, which is precisely why you’re here – to build on what you already know is healthy, viable, and stable. Getting help is a courageous first step and will facilitate positive and lasting change in your relationship.

You are proactive. You want to maintain the relationship and find ways to gain a deeper connection with your partner. You’re looking to surpass the love that already exists. You aim to overcome any difficulties you may be having and not let your relationship end.

If you can relate to the above statements, you should pick up the phone and call us at 267-495-4951 to schedule an appointment for Couples Therapy in Philadelphia with one of our mental health professionals. Maintenance of a relationship is necessary; gaining a more profound connection in a relationship is an obtainable bonus. You can achieve this with one of our relationship counselors in Philadelphia.

Our Specialists & Couples Therapy in Philadelphia

What a couples therapist can provide you is…

Maybe you have the support of a partner; maybe you don’t. Either way, the professional help of a couples therapist can give you the support and peace of mind you’re looking for. Through talk therapy, you will explore and learn healthy sexual narratives and proper techniques to take ownership of your relationship

Together, you and one of our relationship counselors in Philadelphia will explore the topic(s) you present through talk therapy. You will also tackle a formulated, at-home regimen of exercises until you’re confident the issue(s) of relationship distress you presented with are no longer matters in question.

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Common Therapeutic Topics for Couples Counseling Philadelphia

    • premarital counseling
    • communication
    • time management
    • family organization
    • bids for connection
    • growth after major life change – moving in together, getting engaged or married, having children, empty nesters, retirement, loss of a parent, child, or loved one, sobriety, and so many more
  • Experiencing a shift in life circumstances – major career successes, inheriting money, moved locations
  • sexual compatibility and enhancement
  • proactive management
  • rebuilding after infidelity
  • mitigating divorce
  • co-parenting
  • mental health issues in the relationship (one or both partners experiencing: depression, anxiety, ADHD, PTSD, self-esteem issues, high stress, etc.)

We Offer Counseling and Couples Therapy  in Philadelphia, PA, & Online

  • Marriage Therapy & Counseling
  • Couples Therapy & Counseling
  • Relationship Therapy & Counseling
  • Marriage and Family Therapy & Counseling
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Premarital Therapy & Counseling

Ensure you’re covering all of your bases before entering into a long-term, committed relationship that is legally binding. As a high achiever, every little detail counts, including ensuring you are ready to marry. Whether you feel confident that this is the right fit for you, have questions, or just want to get to a better place before marriage, premarital therapy will help you feel at ease taking that next step. 

Our formulated treatment program aids clients’ discussions of essential topics. Within the program, we guide you through topics that need to be discussed to have a healthy, long-lasting marriage. Additionally, our program helps identify areas of strength in the relationship and points of improvement. Pre-marriage therapy can also help you identify patterns within the relationship that may create larger issues as you build your relationship. 

Premarital therapy & counseling can help you learn coping skills that allow a greater understanding of your partner and yourself, allowing for a deeper connection. With one of our relationship counselors in Philadelphia, you can learn how to strengthen your relationship before taking the big step!

Attachment Theory Therapy & Counseling

Attachment theory therapy & counseling focuses on how we relate and connect to our loved ones and ourselves. John Bowlby developed the main idea of attachment theory, which several licensed marriage psychotherapists have adopted over the years. The creation of attachments, or the lack thereof (i.e., attachment breaks), starts in infancy and guides how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world. These attachments give us a sense of security and Self as a foundation to interact with our environment, explore freely, learn from new experiences, and connect with others.

These attachments can be achieved through eye contact, skin-to-skin contact, facial expressions, tone of voice, empathy, and responsiveness from the caretakers during infancy. As the child grows, the caregiver remains responsive to the toddler and child’s needs. Through showing up, being stable, caring, compassionate, and making space for the child to learn and grow, the child starts to develop confidence, a positive sense of Self, sees risk-taking as exciting and necessary, and has an overall positive demeanor. A child who experiences these attachments typically grows into a self-motivated, confident, stable adult. According to the attachment theory, this person maintains secure attachment styles.

While the above attachments are ideal, we are all human. Consequently, as caregivers, we may miss an opportunity for attachment, and as children, we may not recognize or see attachment bids as such. Considering these experiences, we have attachment breaks where we may not feel we have a solid foundation to explore and take risks. Instead, we become fearful, confused, and insecure to where we may experience depressive or anxious symptoms and struggle to maintain healthy relationships. Referencing attachment theory, people with these attachment experiences may have anxious/preoccupied attachments, dismissive/avoidant attachments, or fearful/avoidant/disorganized attachments.

In relationship therapy, our relationship therapists & counselors will help you understand the type of attachment style you and your partner have and the interplay between each of your attachment styles. You may feel stuck with your attachment style, but you do not have to! 

Commonly, there is a chaser and distancer in the relationship based on attachment styles. You will explore how this dynamic plays out and where to make changes or keep what’s working for you. If your partner or yourself has one of the anxious attachment styles explained above, relationship counseling will help you work toward a secure attachment style, leading to deeper connection and better intimacy. 

Learning how to develop a secure attachment will help you and your partner. While it may seem like a secure attachment is not attainable, working with one of our relationship counselors in Philadelphia will help you to make changes!

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in Philadelphia

Some psychologists and psychotherapists would say emotions are our driving force, that they guide our thoughts and behaviors. Emotionally focused theory takes this idea a bit further by honing in on adult attachments, stating that humans are innately relational, social, and wired for intimate bonding with others. As such, our first model for connection is that of our family. 

Unfortunately, we don’t always connect in a way that feels great or that is healthy. Even if the most loving, thoughtful, caring, and enthusiastic parents or guardians raised you, you still have attachment breaks. These breaks will present themselves when you least want them to (e.g., when you’re trying to plan your next vacation with your partner and suddenly feel triggered and pick a fight).

Emotionally focused therapy will help you identify these attachment breaks and how they present themselves in your current relationships. Your relationship therapist will help you identify the emotions that come up for you and how to emotionally regulate to create attachment bonds within your existing relationships instead of playing out old attachment breaks. Emotionally focused relationship counseling will leave you feeling more connected to your partner with a greater understanding of their inner workings. Our clinicians are skilled and receive specialized training to guide you in navigating complex feelings. 

The Gottman Method Therapy & Counseling

While some couples therapists and counselors think emotions and emotional regulation are the backbone of healthy relationships, others believe communication is the key to a successful relationship. Indeed, John Gottman’s research has allowed him to predict with above 90% accuracy rate if a couple stays together or breaks up based on their communication with one another for less than five minutes! His research has helped create therapeutic techniques that guide couples to better communication and, therefore, deeper connection. Relationships take some work, but the work can be extremely rewarding and sometimes as easy as communicating more!

Using Gottman’s research, your relationship therapist will show you the tools for truly hearing your partner’s story and working toward understanding through a compassionate and empathic lens. First, you will learn about the Four Horseman that are detrimental to the relationship. Then, you will learn how to combat these harmful ways of interacting with suggestions from Gottman’s toolbox. You will learn to see your partner as a teammate again and trust they have your best interest in mind. You will start to feel heard and seen again by your partner.

At your initial session, couples counseling or marriage counseling may feel awkward and forced – this is good! The awkwardness means you’re challenging yourself to get out of your comfort zone and grow. Over time, you will notice the communication techniques become more accessible to you, and they feel less like a newly learned skill and more like a natural flow.

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Sex Therapy

Several factors make up a healthy relationship, one of those is the couple’s sex life. Our theory is that great sex starts outside of the sexual relationship. That is, great sex takes inner awareness, effective communication, safety and comfort, prioritization, and so much more.

Sex therapy is specific to the couple’s sex life. Whether you are experiencing intimacy issues or are feeling stuck in your sex life, we will break down the intricacies of what makes up your specific sex life. We will also explore your life outside of your sex life, such as your family history, your career, your relationship as parents, prior sexual abuse, etc. In doing so, our main goal will be to help you reach your highest potential in your sex life through understanding. Our specially trained clinicians can resolve your specific intimacy struggles and rebuild your sex life! Intimacy issues can be challenging to deal with, so having a therapist guide you through your journey is helpful. 

Once you have a full awareness of what each of you brings to the sexual relationship, we can build on that using behavioral techniques. Whether that’s working to overcome erectile dysfunction or vaginal pain during intercourse, or introducing a Dominant/submissive relationship, to opening your relationship up to more than monogamy, sex therapy will focus on specific tools and techniques to get what you want out of your sex life. 

Sex therapy will allow you to overcome obstacles due to past sexual trauma or sexual abuse as well. These traumas may impact your current sex life. Sex therapy can help you heal and move forward from the abuse and trauma. 

Schedule Online Couples, Relationship, or Marriage Therapy & Counseling

Our Online Couples, Relationship, & Marriage Therapy & Counseling, or Telehealth therapy, can be helpful for various reasons. For instance, you’re a high-powered employee with lots on their to-do list, commuting into an office is not a top priority. Having a session from the convenience of your office in the greater Philadelphia, PA, area or home may be best for you. Online therapy allows you to join the therapy session quickly and easily from your home or wherever you are. 

Or you experience elevated levels of anxiety or depression to where it is difficult for you to be in person with others. Having an appointment from the comforts of your home may allow you to be vulnerable in other ways while working toward growth.

Either way, we’re here to help you work in a way that feels right to you. Be sure to discuss with our intake specialist your options for video chat therapy! We work on a HIPAA-compliant platform that is free to you so that your confidentiality is guaranteed.

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What is Marriage, Couples, and Relationship Therapy?

Marriage, Couples, or Relationship counseling & therapy are all types of support focused on systems and helping people in relationships. 

Marriage Counseling

Marriage counseling is behavioral in nature. You will learn hands on tools to help you tackle life’s difficulties. Marriage counseling will provide you with communication skills, conflict resolution skills, co-parenting tactics, and so much more. Counseling typically lasts for a shorter period of time with a targeted goal that can be accomplished with behavioral changes. 

Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is a deep dive into your individual lives and how that presents as a couple. The nature of couples therapy is to explore and bring to awareness a greater understanding for yourself and your partner(s). The biggest difference between couples counseling and couples therapy is the process of learning about yourself and making inner changes that will have big effects outside of you. 

Relationship Therapy

Relationship therapists help couples recognize and resolve their conflicts and improve their relationships. Through relationship therapy you can make thoughtful decisions about rebuilding & strengthening your relationship or can help you in deciding to go separate ways. Relationship therapy may also involve other relationships, such as those with family or friends, and learning how to navigate all relationships with ease. 

While an individual session focuses solely on the individual’s experience of the world around them, couples therapy focuses on the relationship’s experience. By having this focus, the therapist can work with each of the individual’s equally toward a common goal, making the relationship work. Therapy will allow you and your partner to move forward in your relationship, rebuild a solid connection, and heal any wounds. 

Does Marriage or Relationship Counseling Work?

The short answer to this question is yes marriage and relationship counseling does work. Marriage & Relationship therapy and counseling can help save your relationship, get to a point of deeper connection, and have specific tools to get you through tough times in the future. A couples counselor is a supportive guide and helps you face any relationship problems you may be dealing with. Our clinicians work together with you and your partner(s) to build a plan that works for you.  With one of our relationship counselors in Philadelphia, you can learn to build a stronger connection to your partner!

Relationship therapy can also help you recognize that this relationship isn’t going well and parting ways will be better for everyone. Separation is more beneficial to physical and mental health than staying in unhealthy and unhappy relationships. With that in mind, the therapeutic treatment can help each individual get to a space that they feel good about the breakup. They will understand it’s for the best and feel stronger.

There are some exceptions to relational and marriage counseling working. If you are in an abusive relationship, we do not recommend couples counseling or therapy. However, we emphasize the need for individual therapy for each of the partners to help understand why there is abuse in the relationship and what can be done about it.

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When Should We Consider Couples Therapy?

Anytime! Therapy will only make your lives and relationships feel easier and stronger! Some couples do not see a need for therapy until they are struggling to work through something. In contrast, others seek proactive couples counseling as a preventative of significant issues in the future. Regardless of how you approach relationship counseling, we love to help anyone and everyone who thinks they can improve their relationships to seek couples therapy. A therapist on our team will be able to help you through the process of coming together as a couple to acknowledge your concerns.

There are some things to consider as you embark on your journey to starting therapy. Therapy is an investment. You are investing your time, energy, money, and emotions into the therapy process. Not only are you investing in these things, but you also must come with an open attitude toward change and growth. This means you will need to be open to addressing some things that are difficult to face or that you didn’t think were a problem but are impacting your relationship(s) negatively. Although we work with couples and individuals at all stages of change, you must ask yourself if you are ready and if you can give yourself the proper time and space to work on things.

Some common issues* that arise for new clients in their journey that pulls them out of the therapeutic process are:

  • Going up for a promotion at work
  • Having a baby
  • Resistance to going inward to look at your personal role in how you got here
  • Unmotivated for change
  • Chronically or terminally ill loved one that needs your caretaking

*We recognize that these topics may also be the very reason that you call in for therapy as they require extra support.

What to expect in couples therapy

Marriage and Couples therapy is never the same from relationship to relationship, as each couple has their own relationship with each other. That being said, we do have a loose formula that we use for relationship therapy to meet your specific needs. First, you will go through an assessment phase where your therapist gathers family history, job history, relational history, social life, sex and sexuality, and anything else that you feel is pertinent to the work you will be doing as a couple. Next, your therapist will gauge how well you communicate and help you to build a solid base. Lastly, once you and your therapist feel that you have effective communication skills, you will begin to work on the issues that you think are getting in the way of having a fulfilling, enjoyable, healthy relationship. Your therapist may address certain beliefs that come up in the session which may be affecting the healing process. By challenging and restructuring these beliefs through a model like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, you and your partner will prevent future obstacles or conflict. You will develop skills and strategies to make the relationship work. 

Your therapist will work to create safety within the sessions. As such, we remind each of the couples that each person views and experiences issues within relationships differently. Therefore, each person must listen with respect to the ideas presented. Our therapists & counselors work hard to create a supportive space for each person to feel heard and seen within the interaction. There will be times where you and your partner(s) feel extremely comfortable during your appointments. However, there will be therapy sessions that you or your partner(s) may feel slightly uncomfortable. In the discomfort, you will find that real healing can begin, and the most progress is made with the help of your therapist! These therapy sessions will allow for a lot of personal growth and allow you to gain insight into your relationship.

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“Emergency” Marriage Counseling

Sometimes things become tough, and you need help from a marriage therapist or couples therapist as soon as possible. Although change and growth are a process that takes time, we can offer quick tips in marital counseling that may help you through what feels like it could make or break your relationship. Once the anger and pain of the crisis has subsided, we can begin your journey to creating a more stable, healthy relationship with less intense experiences.

We will work a schedule with you to get you in as quickly as possible. Some of our therapists and counselors are available weeknights and weekends!

Please note: If there is any violence or a medical emergency, we require you to contact your local emergency responders or crisis centers before contacting us.

When Should We Consider Couples Therapy?

Anytime! Therapy will only make your lives and relationships feel easier and stronger! Some couples do not see a need for therapy until they are struggling to work through something. In contrast, others seek proactive couples counseling as a preventative of significant issues in the future. Regardless of how you approach relationship counseling, we love to help anyone and everyone who thinks they can improve their relationships. A therapist on our team will be able to help you through the process of coming together as a couple to acknowledge your concerns.

There are some things to consider as you embark on your journey to starting therapy. Therapy is an investment. You are investing your time, energy, money, and emotions into the process. Not only are you investing in these things, but you also must come with an open attitude toward change and growth. This means you will need to be open to addressing some things that are difficult to face or that you didn’t think were a problem but are impacting your relationship(s) negatively. Although we work with couples and individuals at all stages of change, you must ask yourself if you are ready and if you can give yourself the proper time and space to work on things.

Some common issues* that arise for clients in their journey that pulls them out of the therapeutic process are:

  • Going up for a promotion at work
  • Having a baby
  • Resistance to going inward to look at your personal faults
  • Unmotivated for change
  • Chronically or terminally ill loved one that needs your caretaking

*We recognize that these topics may also be the very reason that you call in for therapy as they require extra support.